I generally don’t do token gestures (because most things mean too much to me to be token about them, and also I’m cynical).

Which is why I don’t have a rainbow Facebook picture. It’s not because I don’t support the SCOTUS decision. I do, whole heartedly. But several well educated people in the liberated West making a sensible decision which should have been reached ages ago, a groundbreaking culture change does not make.

I think it’s a bit like the Aristotle quote (check me out, I’m so literate – the inclusion of this makes me a horribly pretentious person)

The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.

Over the last few years I’ve learnt a lot about the world and all it’s inequalities. I know how lucky I am to live in a place where I’m not the target of physical violence just because of my gender. That if I wanted to have a relationship with another woman I could. That if I had an accident which left me physically disabled, that wouldn’t be the end of my life.

Everyone doesn’t live like that, and because of that I just can’t change my profile picture to a pride version and be happy. It feels too token.

But, and listen because this is the important bit, if you support the LGBT* movement and you want to show it via your Facebook picture, absolutely do it. Culture change is about seeing other people believing something and being inspired to join them, and just because I’m not comfortable doing it doesn’t mean I’m not hugely inspired by the number of my friends supporting this cause.

I know too much. If you ask me why I’m seemingly not supporting what I consider to be a relatively minor decision, I’ll explain to you, and maybe then you’ll know too much as well. But in the interim, let’s all enact positive culture change in the absolute best ways that we know how.